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情绪不健康的四个信号 • 如果你感到紧张
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2022-03-11 青岛若水心里咨询有限公司
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<span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">很多人表示他们的幸福感在过去一年中有所下降。很多人都知道自己的情绪健康很重要，但很难做到。一个很好的开始方法是从你的情绪反应中查看数据。如果你有四种感觉中的一种</span><span lang="EN-US">——</span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">紧张、怨恨、沮丧或不适</span><span lang="EN-US">——</span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">这表明你需要调整自己的状态。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">通过解决出现这</span><span lang="EN-US">“</span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">四种感觉</span><span lang="EN-US">”</span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">的情况，你可以为更多你想要的东西和更少你不想要的东西创造时间和空间。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span lang="EN-US">1. </span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">紧张</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">紧张是一种压力或紧张感，会导致持续的紧张、恐惧或分心。你认为某些事情取决于你的表现的结果。你觉得对某种情况负责。对于某些人来说，这可能是积极的。在压力下执行的能力是一种理想的</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/leadership" title="今日心理学着眼于领导力"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">领导</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">技能，因为它可以激发你的</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/attention" title="今日心理学着眼于注意力"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">注意力</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">或专注于一项任务。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">另一方面，未解决的紧张可能意味着您永远不会让自己保持静止、休息或充电，因为您觉得自己必须始终保持前进才能达到下一个基准（由他人设定或自我强加）。下次当你开始感觉到这种感觉出现时，问问自己：什么情况会引发恐惧感？我的身体试图向我展示我在哪里超载自己的</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/wisdom" title="今日心理学着眼于智慧"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">智慧</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">是什么？</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span lang="EN-US">2. </span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">怨恨</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">怨恨是一种选择，这意味着你可以放下旧伤，采取措施为自己挺身而出，纠正不平衡。但是，怨恨使我们几乎不可能表现出同理心或客观地处理情况。它可以增加自怜，而不是解决问题。如果你发现自己有这种感觉，问问自己：我认为我在哪里受到了不公平的对待？我怎样才能勇敢地澄清和表达我的期望？如果有的话，我需要努力放下什么？</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span lang="EN-US">3.</span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">挫败感</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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<span lang="EN-US">4. </span><span style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri;mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri;mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;">不适</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>
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